It was a dull grey Monday morning 12th December but I still chose to go out for a walk. I usually do to get my regular exercise and hope to see new things for my camera.  I chose to visit a park I’d not been to before. I’d only just learnt about it two days prior at the local market where I held a stall to sell my photography items.  Think that was my first mistake. Mind you, it had been raining on the weekend but the tracks didn’t look soaked to me and I stayed off tracks that weren’t visible due to overgrowth. Only the big wide tracks like the firetrack at the top, a road down the side and another track that sloped slightly downhill but was wide – looked newly slashed.  That was the next mistake. Walking down that path.  I now know that there was dirt covering a large smooth rock near where the grass ended, but I didn’t know till I slipped on it…

As soon as my left foot slipped underneath me I heard the crack and felt the snap.  I yelled out to no-one in particular, as I was on my own, “oh no, I’ve broken my leg!”  I went down and tried to brace myself on my elbow but as my left heel tried to touch the ground to rest, pain shot through my left leg and I knew I could not do that again.

I don’t know which order things happened in – did I get my phone out of my pocket first or did I brace my leg with my arm? I suspect the phone first.  I hung my left arm under my hamstring to brace my left leg in the air and then rang 000. Or tried to.  I could make my hands meet so I could use the phone but not sure if it was my third or fourth attempt before I actually got my fingers working to make the call. I was shaking badly and knew I was in shock.  I was relieved to hear a voice answer quickly and I asked for the ambulance operator.  I was switched through to Andrea and she stayed on the phone with me for the next half hour or so, till the Ambos had arrived.

I spoke and cried to Andrea often during that time and if her voice went quiet I’d call out for her and she’d assure me she was there and not leaving me.  I’m sure I rambled in my fear and pain. She asked me questions about my condition and where I was. I got frustrated because I felt like I’d described where I was three or four times but perhaps I was slurry and not very clear, I don’t know.  I told her my mouth was dry and I was shaking, I had water with me but thought perhaps I shouldn’t and she told me I was in shock and not to take a drink.  Andrea assured me the Ambos were on their way even though I often said “I can’t hear the siren”.

I knew the track I was on didn’t show up in the directory or GPS and I was going to have to talk them in, via Andrea. It was important I remained conscious, even though I felt light-headed and panicky and in oh so much pain.

I told Andrea I could feel trickling down my leg. I could see a lump protruding under my trousers and knew I had a compound fracture – no-one had to tell me that. Andrea asked if I could pull my jeans up to have a look if there was bleeding but I baulked at that idea and told I couldn’t do that.  She calmed my panic and told me it was ok.  Was I comfortable where I was?  What was I lying on? How was I dressed?

The ground beneath me was slightly damp but I had my photographer’s jacket on, which is waterproof, and a cardigan too. My body felt warm to me and I didn’t feel cold.  We kept talking, now and then me giving more instructions about what road I’d parked on, where the park was, the Ambos have found my car now, they’re on the track, they won’t be long.  And then they lost radio contact with Andrea so I had to scream out help every minute or two till I heard a voice saying “Coming!  We can hear you”.  Seemed still a long time before they got to me.

I really don’t know how long it was but I’d say it was around 40 mins before the Ambos arrived after I first dialled 000.  I was so relieved to hear the man’s voice and then see the top of his head. I shouted to Andrea “I can see him, I can see him, thank you so much, thank you”.  She told me she would leave me in their hands then.

The rest of the day is in a bit of a blur. Kevin and Eva gave me a green tube to inhale and breathe out (like a cigarette but I don’t smoke so strange to try and get it right) and that helped relieve the immense pain. They put a plastic boot on over my foot and up my leg. I asked Kevin to take photos as you’ll see (yes, my camera was safe – I always wear the camera strap around my neck, never just in my hand or wrapped around my arm).

My hubby later commented wondering how many ambos get asked to take photos of their patients. The ambo even slipped on the same rock I did – but didn’t hurt himself thankfully.  They had to ring around to get someone to unlock the park gates so a vehicle could be brought in and then they had to get a 4 wheel drive with a stretcher brought in to retrieve me. My guess is from the time of accident to when I was finally in the first vehicle is close to an hour.  They had to drive me to a road at the edge of a park where I could see there were two further ambulances and I was transferred to one of them.  By that time I had rung Graham and left a phone message for him saying ‘it is my turn now’ and what was happening.  It had been around 2 hours since I’d left home that morning.  So much for my nice walk in a ‘new park’. I did see a bird I’d not seen before but didn’t get a photo of it

I was taken to one hospital where they knocked me out, straightened my leg and put me in plaster. They confirmed I had two broken bones in a compound fracture – the Tibia and Fibula.  Great. I was hoping they could just plaster and send me home. Instead I was going to have to have surgery.  My husband had joined me at the hospital and we discussed what was best for me with one of the doctors there. We decided it was best to go to a private hospital and to a surgeon the doctor recommended.

Graham left me to meet up with his mate Dave to go retrieve the car I’d gone in and which was still at the park – our daughter’s car.  Later he met up with me at the new hospital but it was a few more hours before I got transferred.  I drifted in and out of pain and confusion and wishing I could start the day all over again, making different decisions. But that was not to be the case.

I had to wait two more days before surgery. I couldn’t understand the wait but was later told by the surgeon that they don’t like risking bleeding in the muscles and feel it’s best to wait for it to settle. Those two days were excruciating, even if I was on pain killers. I couldn’t move from my bed, my heavily plastered leg kept sliding off the pillows it rested on and I was not comfortable in any way possible.  The next week was going to be hell, I was sure of it.

The day after surgery I remembered that I could access Facebook on my phone. Ahh!  I can keep in touch with some friends!  I remembered earlier I should make contact with a client whose work I was supposed to be doing that week and explained what had happened. I kept in touch with one of my VA team members to let her know what was happening and had Graham divert the phone to her.  My phone and the television kept me occupied for the next five days.  I finally came home on day 8 after the accident.

Thought you’d like to see what a good job I did of my leg.  Pretty colours hey? :p Also one of the xrays. I have a nail and cross fixation in my leg and ankle. That is, a large nail or stainless steel down the centre of my leg and then cross screws top and bottom. I’m told nothing will break those but I have to keep the weight off that leg for six weeks to give it time to settle, otherwise I could end up with a shorter leg. Don’t want that. And I definitely want to be able to go out walking again with my camera – just not on that track!

Oh, and did I take any shots while on the ground waiting for the ambos? Of course! But not very interesting view.

I hadn’t thought about this before. Regular readers will know that we have a special thing in our family – three generations with a birthday on the same day. My husband, our son-in-law and his son/our grandson. But what I didn’t realise was this…

Just last Friday our eldest was saying that when her son celebrates his 18th, his father will celebrate his 50th and his grandfather his 75th. That’s 3 big birthday celebrations here (18 is considered being ‘of age’ in Australia).  We hadn’t realised that would happen. Graham began to think of himself as a 75 year old and groaned. I just reminded him he’d be married to a 70 year old and that it would be ok

Thank you to all those people who ask about Graham often. It’s so nice to know that so many of you are thinking of him and wondering of his progress, and praying for him too.

He’s been making good progress and is now working from home fulltime. He occasionally goes into the city office to work but finds that 2 days in a row is more than sufficient – it wears him out. He’s much better off putting in full days at home for now and we are truly blessed that the company he works for allows this scenario. His boss has been excellent in facilitating this – thanks Mac!

In the meantime, we’ve discovered something interesting since Graham’s accident. And it’s not something we would have thought about had his accident not happened.  To look at, Graham appears to be fine and those who don’t know him would not know anything is wrong at all. I know when I watch him walk – I can see the limp and know that his right leg doesn’t carry through in the way it should do. I’m conscious that he has to be careful walking but he can now walk a couple of kms with me down the gravel road of our street – not every day, but some days.  He still has to be careful and still tires easily.

Anyway, what we’ve found is that many clothing stores do not cater to the disabled, i.e. they do not provide a chair or stool to sit on when trying on clothing. Went into Just Jeans today at Knox and their rooms were so small you couldn’t even put in one of the armchairs they had. I told them we’ll have to go and find another store with what he wanted. A staff member went off and found a folding chair out the back and put that in a changing room for Graham to use.  And yet later in Target we found they had a change room specifically for the disabled – large enough to push a wheelchair into and a padded bench to sit on and room for another person to be there if needed.

This isn’t the first time we’ve gone into a store for Graham to buy clothes only to find they don’t cater for those unable to stand steadily while trying on clothing.  (Rebel Sports is another we’ve found that doesn’t cater for the disabled) If you have a disabled person in your family or amongst your friends, please encourage clothing stores to cater for them. Write to them, speak to their staff, tweet about it. Being disabled does not mean that those people are aged, fat or poor, i.e. wouldn’t be going into many of the clothing stores we go into.  Younger people, non-fat people and people who do have incomes can be disabled too!

In a way I guess you could say that disabled people are being discriminated against in those stores.  What makes them think that a disabled person wouldn’t want to buy a pair of jeans, or wouldn’t want to buy sports clothing, i.e. trackpants, leggings or other clothing items that first need to be tried on to ensure they fit?

All people should be catered for in clothing stores and given the opportunity to try on clothing safely and without embarrassment or risk of further injury.

It’s almost 3 years since we lost our beloved Mirri.  The first year dragged by and I lived in total fear that year. Fear for what our future held, fear for how my husband was coping, fear for our whole family really.  The second year got a little better and once Graham and I shifted to our new home things picked up and improved a lot. I think it’s because we have new surroundings that are peaceful and healing in themselves.

This past year has brought a mixture of things.  It started out ok and things were moving forward and Graham and I were enjoying being here in our new home very much. We still are. But he had an accident some months ago and that changed things yet again. It’s like the old constant we once had will never be again and we keep adjusting trying to find a new ‘normal’.  Is it like this for everyone as they grow older?  I suspect so in some ways.

I’ve had challenges too both on a personal and business level.   Personal because once again I lived in fear for my husband and what our future might hold. I know I should have a stronger faith and I pray constantly but it doesn’t stop me from worrying or being panicked now and then. And then I had someone attack my business via my shopping cart and I became an unsuspecting victim who is still trying to get things back on an even keel.

And yet there is still hope around the corner. I’ve made new connections recently for my business that look promising, Graham and I are making friends at our new church and settling in and feeling like we belong. We’ve been there a year together now. And we’ve found that three of our immediate neighbours are really lovely people who are only too willing to hold out their hands and arms and help us in times of need.  They all barely know us but they have accepted us as a part of their lovely community.  It’s lovely to feel like we really belong somewhere and we really do feel that way. Belonging is so important and part of the human need, don’t you think?

Anyway, the third anniversary of our loss is at the end of this month and I know we’ll be having our sad days and thoughts once again.  It’s not that we don’t think of Mirri often – we do, but her birthday, the anniversary of her death and Christmas tend to heighten those feelings of loss. I wonder how all her friends are doing? Used to see them a lot on Facebook but only see a couple regularly now. They seemed to have moved on with their lives, which is a good thing for them.  Anyway, I’m rambling…

Kathie and Graham Thomas

Guess I really should update here.  Graham thought it was time   He spent 7.5 weeks in hospital and has been home now for nearly 6 weeks. The house is no longer lonely and silent. He has his music playing, or watches funny clips on the web or sometimes watches the TV in the loungeroom by our office.  I’m sleeping much better now knowing he is home again.

I’m adjusting to sharing the office fulltime, instead of just the evenings and weekends.  We both have to learn to keep our voices down when on the phone so the other can concentrate or also carry on a phone conversation or meeting. It’s been a long time since we’ve both worked in the same area but never actually worked together in the same room/office.

He is still recovering and it will take some time yet, but it is good that he has returned to work 2 hours a day here at home.  I take him to some appointments, and others come here to see him. He’s able to do physio in our own gym/games room which is good.  The meds still tire him but they’re necessary to help him handle the nerve pain, which we believe will be with him for quite a while yet.  The prayers are always welcome as we know first-hand that they do help a great deal.

Thank you to everyone who has supported us during the time and continue to do so.  When I was home alone travelling back and forth to hospital many from our church supplied meals, checked on me and visited Graham. We are so grateful for this.  And our family have rallied round us – the girls have been great checking on us often.  It’s a blessing to have our family, the girls, the sons-in-law and friends and our beautiful grandson who is a real delight.

Everything was sailing along nicely till the past week. Graham and I have settled into our new surroundings and love our home and garden.  He’s been on holidays and enjoying just being at home and being able to go off on mtb rides. And there the problem began.  He had a crash last Tuesday and is now in hospital for an unknown amount of time. He’s had a spinal cord injury and it’s still too early to tell how long he may be unable to use his right hand and arm, or some other limbs.  Some improvement daily, but very slow. There is still bruising and swelling so it won’t be till that goes down that they can see what damage might be longer lasting.

He’s being shifted to a rehab hospital today to begin the process of learning to walk again – his legs do work, although the right one is weak, but he’s not able to hold his own weight as yet and needs a frame.  And his left hand can be used but his right one not.

When we are home together we sit comfortably in our silence together. We don’t feel the need to talk all the time – just to be there, together, doing our own thing, reading, writing, surfing the web, and so on. But now with him not in our home, the silence has turned into something I don’t like.  The radio is on, and so is my computer, but he’s not here…

It’s not like it is when he’s away somewhere – I can ring him, text him, email him and know I’ll hear back from him. But he can’t use his phone at the moment so even if I try to ring or send him a message, he’s unable to answer or respond.  The silence has become something almost overwhelming. I miss him terribly.

Value your life partners and their company, no matter how much noise, or how little noise they make. There is comfort in companionship and knowing your loved one is within reach.  I need a hug.

I want to say thank you to all those who have been contacting me from interstate and overseas, concerned for our welfare, and that of our daughters.

We are all safe and not in flood’s way, thankfully.  I know that so many others have not been so fortunate.  It is so strange to have such wet weather during our summer season – at least in the south eastern part of Australia. The north eastern part of Australia often has heavy rains at this time of year – monsoonal weather, although never as intense as this – at least for a long, long time.

For around 13 years we’ve suffered a drought here in Victoria and summers have been harsh, hot and unforgiving. It was almost 2 years ago we had those awful bush fires.  The CFA is anxious that everyone still remain alert though – with all the rain, it means a lot more fuel has grown, when we do get the hot dry weather.  In the meantime, when we do hear the CFA sirens it usually signals either a car crash on the wet slippery roads, or a tree fallen onto a house or something else.  Even on our own property we’ve lost many branches and during 2010 in the heavy rain and winds we lost 5 gum trees just in our park area.

I have two sisters, a niece and nephew all in Qld.  One sister and my nephew have been stranded in that surrounding roads were blocked by floods. While they were safe in their respective places and their homes untouched, they couldn’t go to work or leave their towns because of the floods. The waters are now receding and they’re able to travel further now.

We do know of a family in Rochester, a town that had to evacuate just 2 nights ago and we haven’t yet heard if they’ve been touched by the floods. And there are still flood warnings happening in our state, mainly along the major river lines.

So, once again, thank you very much for your concerns and offers of help.  If you would like to contribute in some way, then you can donate to the Queensland Flood Appeal or keep an eye out at Google in case there is one set up for Vic.  We were amazed to see some of the areas affected by floods here in Victoria are places we drove through often whenever moving back and forth between South Australian and Queensland.

Postnote:  I’ve heard from the family in Rochester.  Their daughter and partner have lost everything – their house had the waters halfway up the walls and they were in another state when they got word it was imminent.   This daughter is my niece from my first marriage.  If you want to assist Fiona and her family in any way, please get in touch with me so I can forward contact details.

Well, my tomatoes are growing and changing colour.  woo hoo!  I’ve staked one of the bushes with a small branch that’s fallen off a tree nearby. Hubby thinks he might have some stakes somewhere but since this is only a small tomato bush, I’m not worried.  The other bush hasn’t progressed as far yet, although it does have some tomatoes on it.

The potato plants I transplanted suffered a couple of hot days without rain but I watered them each day and they have survived and are now standing straight.  We’ve had rain again which helps.  The broccoli and parsley are growing well too.  Got lots of weeding to do in that area still but our weather has either been very hot, or very wet, so not really a good time to work in the garden. Perhaps on the weekend.

Our neighbour is giving me some salvia plants she’s potted (she’s with the Salvia society and her garden is filled with them) so I need to find a spot for those as well – I know how big they can grow.  There’s something special about gardening – it gives you a good work out. Did you know 30 mins of gardening is equivalent to 30 mins of a brisk walk?  And there’s something satisfying about inspecting your work and seeing it grow, almost before your eyes. I love it!

Happy New Year to all my readers – even the spammers who seem to delight in constantly targetting this blog.

I hope that this new year will be a constructive one for you and will reap the kind of results you are looking for.

We had such a lovely day today. Graham and Dave went for a ride with some of their MTB mates and then when they came back, Angie turned up, with a young puppy in tow, that she is babysitting for a friend.  Together we went next door to visit our neighbour Trudi and her son and spent a lovely afternoon listening to her reminisce and tell us stories of life where we live over 40 years ago.

I wonder if people only really value what the elderly have to say when they themselves get older?  Although I remember loving listening to my grandmother tell stories of her past.  Trudi reminds me of her in some ways.

We’ve been getting to know her over the past year and sometimes I go over to fix her computer. Graham sometimes mows her lawn with his ride-on mower. And I often traipse over there to take photos of her garden and the birds there.  In fact I made her a calender with photos of her own garden, and some of her statues too (she’s a clay sculptress) and we gave it to her today, as she was unwell for visitors before Christmas. She was delighted with her gift, it brought tears to her eyes.  I wanted to see her reaction and was suitably satisfied to watch her as she turned each page to view the next month.  A gift that will be in use for the next year!

If you read my photoblog and commented last month (December 2010) you might also end up with a calendar – one lucky commenter certainly will!

Here’s to a new year and more memories in the making!

I’ve begun a vege patch in our vast garden. Just one small corner that needs a lot of clearing. We have broccoli and small tomatoes growing so far, planted a few weeks ago. Something’s been eating the broccoli so I have sprayed it but the leaves have been looking more like swiss cheese.  The tomatoes are going great though.

Today I cleared away a sticky weed that grows over all sorts of things and uncovered a bottle brush bush in full flower.  And lots of white lillies which I’m now removing. We have tons of these plants all over our property so a few won’t be missed.

Below is what the garden looks like at the moment and also some of our tomatoes.  I plan on updating you now and then of my progress with this portion of our garden.